Positive Thought Love List

Knowing what you’re looking for is the initial step towards successful dating. An easy way to gain more clarity about what you want to attract in your life is to take the time and effort to put your thoughts and feelings down on paper. If you’re serious about creating a successful relationship, taking the time to make a Positive Thought Love List can set you on the right path.

Before you make your Positive Thought Love List, look back and evaluate your past relationships. Look at the type of person you’ve been attracted in the past and ask yourself what were the positive and negative attributes of each love relationship. You most likely have an idea of the perfect partner you want so make a list based on what dos and don’ts of what you’ve experienced beforehand. However, if those relationships haven’t worked out for you before, maybe it’s time to take a more in depth look at what you’ve based your “must have” and “don’t want” lists on in the past.

When making your list, try to be detailed and thorough. Be specific about what you want and don’t want in addition to the degree to which a behavior is acceptable or unacceptable. Have fun during this process and imagine that you are building the perfect fantasy partner, your perfect match made only for you. Split your list into three different sections that include:

Must Have’s – Not Negotible: Think about the things you felt were absent from your past relationships. Perhaps you felt that your partner didn’t give you an adequate amount of respect or seemed unsupportive when you needed it the most. In love relationships, support, challenge and encouragement are all very important. Have a positive state of mind and be clear about what you will and accept in your life. Do you like someone who is organized and tidy, and if they are untidy is this a romantic deal breaker? If you prefer to stay home and a prospective partner is a party animal, is this going to be suitable? This is very individual to each and every person, so what’s important here that it’s your choice and not what someone else feels you ‘should’ have.

Can Compromise: Think of the areas you can compromise on. These are the grey areas that you can live with if need be, it all depends on how compatibly you are in the other areas of life, as to how you feel about what you can live with or not, but most people will have a few grey areas that they don’t care. It could be that your partner is into sports and even though you are not a diehard sports fan you don’t mind as it gives you time to yourself.