Thursday, September 23, 2010

How to Test a Man's Love For You! Here is How to Know If He Truly Loves You Or is Just Acting

Love relationships is really great feelings
Men and women have different ways of showing love. Women tend to be more expressive and emotional, while men tend to, well, be more non-chalant about it. And sometimes, men simply don't get the point of why they have to keep on reassuring their woman when, in their view, they're already expressing it the way they know how.

So women have this tendency to test them, if only to reassure themselves instead. If you want to test your man's love for you, then you can ask yourself some simple questions:

Does he take genuine interest in what you do?
Your man is interested to know how your day at the charity went, or how your most recent project is going. He likes to know things that go on in your world.

Does he make time for you?
No matter how busy he is, he makes time to be with you, or if he can't do that, he calls you or sends you messages. This only means that he cares about the quality time that you spend together.

Does he give you the space to grow?
You can gauge a man's love if he does not hamper your personal growth. He lets you spread your wings and explore, to reach for the sky. He supports your endeavors, and is happy for your successes, even the little ones.

Is he honest with you?
He doesn't try to keep his mobile phone or wallet or notebook from you, because he has no reason to. There are no secret phone calls or meetings or emails.

Does he do things to try to make you happy?
Men will go for miles to do things that would make their woman happy. These things do not have to be extravagant. It can be as simple as buying spaghetti sauce from the 24-hour grocery... in the middle of the night... in the rain.

Does he miss you?
When you're apart, even just for the day, he calls you or sends you text messages or emails. And sometimes, even when you're together but you're preoccupied with a project, he already shows you that he misses you.

Does he tell you?
Men are not comfortable with the "L" word, so if he tells you that he loves you, then you can be assured.

These things, of course, are not carved in stone. Individuals differ. The ultimate way is... do you believe in your gut that he loves you?

Monday, September 13, 2010

I Love You But I'm Not "In Love" With You Anymore

Has your spouse told you they weren't "in love" with you anymore? Well do I have news for you. The saying "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore" is a worn out cliché. It's not possible to "fall out of love" because you weren't "in love" to begin with. The excuse "I'm not in love with you anymore" is nonsensical. Let me tell you why.

There is no such emotional condition as falling out of love; it's a justification for doing whatever you are planning on doing. It's a way to let your spouse down easy. What you're really feeling and should be saying is "I don't want to love you anymore". It usually means that the attitude towards your spouse and marriage is not what it once was. Perhaps you are talking yourself into having an affair or perhaps you have already had an affair.

The person who says "I'm not in love with you anymore" is searching for a feeling.

The marriage has stopped giving them a feeling they want and expect to have. It is an attitude that builds up after months and or years of a lifeless marriage - a marriage that has no intimacy. This is why quality time spent together (intimacy) is more important than sex in a marriage. Not that sex isn't important, because it is, but that sex IS NOT INTIMACY. Sex may be a part of intimacy but it is not the whole picture.

Intimacy can be as simple as playing a board game or planting seeds together in your garden; or intimacy can be as complex as working together in a business or getting involved in a hobby with your spouse. But couples aren't doing any of these things together anymore! They have drifted apart, each doing their own thing. When couples stop doing things together they lose the intimate bond between them they once shared when they were first married.

"I'm not in love with you anymore" actually means "I don't feel close to you anymore".

Couples NEED to have an intimate attachment with one another for marriage to be healthy. If couples aren't getting their intimate needs met in the marriage they are more apt to seek it from somewhere else. Ironically, they could be trying to bring back intimacy with their spouse but don't know where to start, or perhaps they feel resentful or angry about something their spouse did, and so they never try to get close again.

If couples do not have a bond of intimacy with each other it is inevitable the relationship will have major problems and one or both spouses will feel they aren't "in love" anymore. The good news is you can perk up your marriage and reawaken intimacy by spending quality time together. Do stuff together! Stop behaving as if "she has her life" and "he has his life". You both have your lives with each other!

Express yourselves in nice ways and be good listeners. Be considerate and respectful of each other's feelings. Write down all the things you love about your spouse and put it under their pillow. Write down all the ways you can show your love. Be more willing to go the extra mile for your spouse. Be more loving and you will feel more loving!

Do not expect love to always feel like your first date; or the first time someone flirted with you; or that first puppy love feeling; or the way your coworker flirts with you. That's not love; that's desire and lust feelings. It's the euphoria of desire and emotions, which are fleeting moments. They are only temporary and mean nothing. They cannot fulfill your emotional holes.

What is lasting? What is lasting is the love you have for the person you married. Right now you have buried your love behind a wall of what you think love should feel like. Your attitude has literally controlled the way you think about your marriage and the person you married; the person you made a promise to love forever. I think its time you unbury that love, don't you?

Are you having a hard time forgiving your spouse of adultery? Do you keep picturing your spouse with the other person? Do you not trust your spouse anymore? Is your marriage about to collapse? Is your spouse repentant for their infidelity? Then read Angie's book ADULTERY PANDEMIC. If you or your spouse have been unfaithful, this book will give you the understanding you need to heal yourself and restore your marriage.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Make a Man Fall in Love - Tricks You Might Be Missing On

How can you make sure a guy will fall in love with you? How can you make him addicted to you forever? Do you know what will make him pick you over any other girl? The progression towards powerful feelings and intimacy is very different in men and women, that's why our relationships can be so complicated at times. However, there are tricks you might be missing on to make men fall in love much more effectively. Check out the following advice to learn more.

The path to love leads to the same place for both men and women, but we definitely aren't taking the same road to it. Men take the long road: they get attracted physically very quickly, then they take a very long time to experience deep emotions. They are almost scared and paralyzed to the slightest risk of rejection. That's why they often put on a persona instead of displaying their soft side. They need complete confidence in the girl they're currently dating to finally open up. This is major to say the least when it comes to making a guy fall in love with you; without support and close friendship with your man, it won't happen. When he feels like you're totally into his camp, things can really progress at a faster pace than you what you've experienced before.

The next thing we need to mention is that you can't force his feelings to come out, you can only facilitate it. A man under pressure will always back off, and chances are that he will put a wall between you two that will stay forever. Facilitate him in connecting with his feelings by giving him space and time; with patience, he will tell you what you want to hear one day. Another tip related to this is that you should hold off on disclosing facts about your personal life, particularly the ones that could disturb his process to reach his emotions. This process is already hard for him, and if you make it too hard and complicated, he could very well give it all up.

If you really think about it, we are so much better off taking our advice from people that know what they're talking about in terms of modern dating. Be careful when choosing the people you go up to for relationships and dating advice. Our world is not what it once was: years ago, men always took the lead in terms of providing for the family. The woman mainly took care of children and the household. Things have changed and now we're seeing many women earning more than their male counterpart, in the same domain and jobs. This has translated into dating where they're not scared anymore to do the first move. This has not been without consequences as many men lost their sense of purpose in the whole process. Therefore, go easy on leadership, control and aggressiveness when dealing with men.

In conclusion, start by attracting guys with your appearance, personality and confidence. Then, facilitate him in making the first moves and invite you to your meeting together. Guys will always be grateful for that and they will consider that as a big favor on your part. Be independent, but without getting in the way of his masculine and dominant side. He will jump in the driver's seat and take you two forward, that is, if you don't push him in the back all the time. Like we said, the love process takes longer to happen in men. Discard some of the old dating mindsets you might hear about and face the reality that men still need to be men in today's dating world. Lastly, enjoy the whole process. It is often the road to the objective that is more fulfilling than the objective itself. Be patient, stay relaxed and he will soon be yours.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Why do men love women?

why he love herWhat have women got that men just can't stop going crazy over them? Is it because of love or lust? What makes those two diverge? At the early age of puberty, men feels fascinated to women. They have the penchant also to be attracted to older girls even at the age of 7. This is because older girls are a lot sexier and attractive. It looks they see their mother in older girls. Younger men feel pampered by older women. Older women tend to understand younger men more particularly in their mood. But as they grow older, men love women younger than them or at their age.

How can you actually define love or differentiate love from lust? Is it love that men felt when they spot a woman and feel something? Well I could declare that it would take time to finally conclude that what he or she feels is already that issue called love.

Love is past physical, it is something you can't touch. When you can forgive and forget what a person has caused you, then that is love.

Lust, on the other hand is still an feeling that is merely physical.This is linked with the feeling of craving a person sexually but oftentimes leads to Love and wanting to impart something beyond physical.

You can say you really love a person if in a longer span of time, you remain fascinated to him or her physically and later on turned into something sensitively distinctive.

Steps to draw men:

1) Fill up your love tank- love the people surrounding you, welcome their decency, love yourself. Men are more fascinated to women who illustrate that they are to be respected and valued. Friends can help particularly affectionate and wonderful friends. It will present in your well-being if you are full of love and when you are full of love, you can love others already.
2) Cook up Love - Be the master of the kitchen and attract your man through his stomach.
3) Be yourself - While men loves being pursued, most men still love to chase women. Shine in other things so he would perceive you; for example if he is a school mate then excel in the classroom. If he is a neighbor who doesn't even give a look, then start by giving the mother some new recipes to cook. Act as if he's not your goal and let him target you instead.

Men are born polygamous and they tend to glance elsewhere and this is extremely important when looking for a mate. We don't know for sure how to keep his attention unless of course if he really loves you that much not to consider hurting your feelings. You have to take the chance, for it might be precious in the end and anyway life is a risk you have to take and that incorporates loving someone.

Men have crabbiness too that need women to shut up so it is important to know the nature of men. Listen and don't nag but be sharp in studying the thin line that separates listening and enabling your partner to fool you. Solving troubles in a relationship is in the hands of a woman. It is hard for women to keep their men and keep them interested with them all the time. Keep you man enthralled with you through these steps:

1) The center of a relationship should be reliance.Faith and trust must at all times be present.

1) CREATE MOMENTS TOGETHER. Typically men do this; out of the blue men would propped a date in some passionate place just for two; a candlelight dinner, with a music in the background or may be a little bit offhand as just walking in Manila Bay at sunset, a picnic at the Park or in the Zoo, for those of smaller budget, but whatever it is what is important is that you make some moments together, because that is what life is all about.

2) Share your dreams and aspirations to your loved one. Your relationship does not consist of you alone so when it comes to your thoughts and aspirations, see if it fits with his. How close or far apart, similar or conflicting are your dreams and his dreams, then you'll know if you are to go on this relationship or not. Never give up a dream just to satisfy your partner's emotional insecurities as this will be the cause of the potential breakdown of your love relationship in the end.

3) DON'T NAG. Learn to listen to your partner's side and don't be a faultfinder. Your relationship must have trust in order to have future. Nurture and win trust instead of abusing it.

4) Be a friend first and became lovers later on. Lovers should only be second from friendship to make it continue longer.

Women fascinates men who knows how to handle themselves. Women that can encourage and comfort a man in times of sorrow.In a relationship, man should not be the only one who's strong. In fact, when it comes to feelings, women are stronger. That is fairly obvious.